rendah diri atau ego?

let me recall you a story.
a story that i think all of us know.
a story that we should know.

owh, and do right me if i'm wrong.

rasulullah s.a. w and siti khadijah.
a great love story indeed.
but let me make it clear that it's not the love story that i'm going to focus on.

kita memang sedia maklum perbezaan umur yang ketara antara rasulullah dgn siti khadijah.
15 years. my, that's a big figure.
imagine if a modern woman living among us, married to a young man.
sure ade yg kutuk punye la.
but again, that's not the point.

now, umur is not the only thing yang mnjadi perbezaan antara mereka berdua.
there's something else.
perbezaan darjat.

siti khadijah is a famous and very wealthy indeed.
dia saudagar terbesar or terkaya.
rasulullah pulak, he's someone working for khadijah.
a very hardworking and trusty employee indeed.
i guess that's how khadijah falls for him.

ok. again, that's not the point.

ye lah, let met lead you straight to the point.

my point is, kalau nak ikutkan, mesti rasulullah ada rasa rndah dri kat siti khadijah.
dah la kaya, pastu matang, bos dia plak tu.

pastu, tiba2 khadijah datang masuk meminang rasulullah plak.

imagine if i put this situation in this modern era of time.

a 25 years old man,
kene pinang oleh a 40 years old woman,
yang merupakan bos dia yang kaya-raya.

fuhhh, agak2 dia nak terima tak pinangan tu?

msti dia rasa malu la. orang akan cakap, ko tak takut ke kawin ngn dia. nanti ko konfem kene queen control punya.

takpun, apa orang sekarang cakap. perigi cari timba, timba cari perigi? haha. ye la, ape plak perempuan yang pegi pinang, tak gentleman la.

my MAIN POINT here is, sumeorang allah dah letak sama rata. yang bezakan manusia bukan pangkat atau harta, mahupun jantina, tapi iman yang hanya allah je tau each and one of us punya iman's level.

there's no such thing as, aku tak boleh la kawan dgn dia, sbb dia pandai lagi dr aku.
ak tak layak nak tegur dia, dia lagi alim.
or dia kaya, takut aku nak campur dgn orang camtu.
ataupun, hish, dia pompoan, taknak aku ikut telunjuk dia. macam dayus plak.

let me ask you, adakah sebenarnya anda rasa rendah diri atau ego?
ego dimana, anda rasa tergugat dgn orang yang lebih dari anda.
i mean come on, everyone has their own specialities. why don't you believe in yours?

macam rasulullah, he accept je pinangan siti khadijah.
owh and yes, they built a happy marriage for sure.
walaupun relationship mereka, siti khadijah yang macam buat the first move, but after that, rasulullah yang bimbing isteri dia.
and siti khadijah ialah isteri yang solehah dan taat for sure.
walaupun khadijah lagi matang atau berpengalaman, khadijah tak penah go against her husband.
instead, khadijah always give endless supports to his husband.

memang la orang cakap ap, tu rasulullah, for sure la dia layak nak kahwin ngn sapa2 pon. dgn puteri raja pon dia layak.

but no, i believe, things happen for reasons. and i think, kisah rasulullah and siti khadijah definitely has its own reasons. allah nak kita belajar from his stories.

so, jangan lah kita terlebih superior, ataupun tersangat lah inferior.
everyone is equal. kalau kita ada kekurangan,
kelebihan kita boleh compensate kekurangan kita tu.
we find our ways to improve kekurangan yang ada.
kelebihan kita plak, kita gunakan untuk menolong orang lain.
so, we complete each other (ayat feveret. :P)

When you meet someone better than yourself, turn your thoughts to becoming his equal. When you meet someone not as good as you are, look within and examine your own self.- Confucius