بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
they say, "you'll get frustrated. don't dream."
or they say something like,
"have less dream, you'll be less frustrated, you'll be happier"
i don't agree. well, only that part particularly.
yes, with big dreams, come big frustrations.
but that doesn't mean we should stop dreaming.
dream itself has a few definitions. let's just assume the dream that i'm referring right now is more or less is like a goal. yes. dream=goal. or aim, or vision. or whatever that you want to achieve. realistic ones, is more likely.
of course, in life, we'll never get everything that we want.
we got to lose some, to gain some. that's life.
and no matter how big your dreams are,
no matter how numerous your goals are,
no matter how hard you are working towards it,
we all know, in the end, it is up to Allah.
whether he wants to give you or not.
but that does not mean that you can lay around,
do nothing, sit and have a coffee and sleep all day long,
don't have plans and dreams,
and let fate takes you wherever it will leads you to.
no sir, that is not how things work here.
my point is, why are we so afraid of frustration.
it is just another emotion that we can deal with.
for example we can overcome frustration by means of displacement. or substitution
you can't achieve what you want, set another goal to achieve.
replace the dream that is unachievable, with a new one.
or try another way.
maybe your way of working towards your goal is incorrect. analyse it, and go for it.
where there is a will, there will always be a way, somehow.
the key regulatory enzyme; is to not GIVE UP.
now, if the world is filled with those who are, i-dun-want-to-get-frustrated-therefore-i-dun-want-to-dream kind of people then, light bulbs would never be invented. imagine how many times did Thomas Edison get frustrated with all those failures. but he didn't give up. he believes that it is possible to have such invention, and alas, you have a light bulb in your room. and light bulb is also a "mother cell" for most of other inventions that we depend on, today.
most importantly, if prophet Muhammad p.b.u.h get frustrated with all those people who rejected him, those who criticized him, hurt him, some, even tried to kill him, then Islam will not be spread widely and be alive as it is today. SubhanaAllah. although he is very sad with those people, but never did he said things like;
" this is not working. i'm frustrated. i don't want to do this anymore."
no way. because he believes in what he is doing. he believes in Allah.
it's ok to be frustrated for a while. just like it is ok to be sad for a while. then, when you had enough of crying, you had enough of frustrating, wipe those tears, and get back on track.
do not afraid to get frustrated.
it's just another emotion for us to overcome, to make us stronger,
to test whether we really believe in whatever we are doing.
dare to dream.
if you fall down, then just get up. continue to run. as simple as that.
it is the same as do not afraid to love and to be loved.
you'll get hurt for sure. but is just another emotion for us to overcome.
to test whether we appreciate those around.
" if you don't dream big, what's the use of dreaming" - Emily Shackleton, Dream Big